Thursday, July 13, 2023

Lonely at the Top

You made it, finally. You have all the materialistic and ability to be comfortable in your own world. The trips, the dinners, the clear schedule, or full agenda book, to-do list, a little money to burn, even your physical health is good. Except, where are all of the people you started with, or where are the people you can trust? It's interesting as you begin your journey to success or having, what you or another person considers to be, a "good life", the amount of changes you have to make. Your close circle becomes smaller as your network grows. Associates become acquaintances, partners become friends and your old friends can become strangers. Even your family can seem distant. Not that you've done anything wrong, your path just changed, your mindset has altered.

Its a little hard to accept the fact that in order to build something you have to seperate from your norm. Meaning, removing yourself from friends and loved ones as you look onward to achieving whatever it is you're trying to accomplish. You hear it time after time, "you need to remove yourself from that crowd if you want something out of life." Or, "show me your friends, I'll show you your future." "You don't want to end up like them." "You working on a Sunday? "You need a real job." The title "Lonely at the Top" doesn't necessarily mean you have to be a boss or CEO to be at the top. You can be at the top of your game or in the best spot you've been in your life, and be at the top. I guarantee you lost a few close people getting there. Whether it's from personal choices or just time. Honestly, most of it is loss of time with people. Then, those who missed out on your time tend to take things personally. Not that you meant to miss engagements, sometimes there isn't enough time, or you're just not interested in that crowd anymore. New paths often create new hobbies as well. Or, you just have your agenda which occupied your time. Usually, it's not personal. Growth comes with change and you can't have one without the other, regardless of what they say. Whoever "they" are.

"They" say money can't buy happiness but you wouldn't believe how many millionaires are depressed. As we grow and manage endeavors and things that we enjoy or goals we set, it's easy to forget what even made us laugh or happy. Imagine having everything you prayed for or wanted and realizing it wasn't that important. It never was. Things we don't have just seem better when we don't have them, right? It's important to enjoy the things you do have and the people who are around not because of the things you have, but because they enjoy your company.

On the other hand, if you're around people who don't want anything out of life, your life can become routine, just a rerun of yesterday. Same people same stories, and sometimes even the same house. Continue to insert changes to your normal. Share those experiences with others and spend time with those you love and those who love you. This will fill any emotional emptiness you may experience on your rise, or at the top!